A Lesson Learned with Cancer

by thenibecamemum

You may have noticed that my activity on my blog and social media in the last few months has been minimal. The reason for this is that there has been a lot going on in the background which really knocked me for six. Due to this, it has taken me several months to try to find my enthusiasm again for blogging.

I rarely share these types of posts on my blog unless it has value but this short post has been therapeutic to write and is a vital reminder to ALWAYS GET LUMPS CHECKED OUT. 

In November last year, my mum was diagnosed with breast cancer – a 4cm tumour that had already spread to her lymph nodes. A lump that she had known about for quite some time and ignored. 

There are just no words to explain how our world crumbled that day. 

To begin with, I never really cried. I became an annoying, ultra positive person who could not accept what was happening. I buried my head in the sand. This was until one day, standing in the kitchen at work, reality struck and the tears came.

Seven gruelling months followed, watching my mum completely lose herself both physically and mentally to the her mastectomy and chemotherapy. Nothing can prepare you for the pain and discomfort you have to watch your loved one go through, completely helpless to do anything.

After chemotherapy came radiotherapy and yesterday marked one month since my mum’s last radiotherapy treatment. Now, she’ll have injections for another year but she can begin to get “back to normal”…whatever that is…

See the problem with cancer is it completely messes up your mindset.

It is a stark reminder that we’re not invincible and it leaves you with a fear of ‘what if…?’. There’s no movie moment of celebrating cancer’s butt being kicked. Nobody ever officially tells you you’re cancer-free (or atleast not in the first 5 years anyway). Life just goes on and you hope to never come face to face with Cancer again. 

During this time, Cancer has taught me two things. Firstly, that my mum is one strong, amazing woman. And secondly, it has taught me that life is far too short to worry about materialistic things. For me, it’s about living life and creating memories. Not for the purpose of blogging, as often would have been the case in the past, but because…

…what if tomorrow never comes?

One final thing, ladies (and gentlemen), please check your breasts! Here’s a handy guide for checking your breasts if you’re not sure how. Breast cancer has the best possible outcome when found and treat early. Don’t leave it to chance!


Nicola | Mummy to Dex 5th August 2018 - 5:00 pm

So glad your Mum is okay. She has been so brave and strong to go through all of that and so have you. It’s bloody awful to watch someone you love deteriorate so much but hopefully now she has turned a corner and I hope you all find whatever your normal is. Lots of love xxxx

thenibecamemum 6th August 2018 - 8:19 am

Thanks Nicola 🙂 It really is awful, isn’t it? I hope your Dad is back to full health now! x


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